She says you're being defensive.

And maybe you are right. That's not the problem.

The problem is what happens in the half-second after she says it — the heat, the need to explain, the story that floods in before you've decided anything. She thinks I'm a failure. Nothing I do is ever enough.

You'll call it being right. Most men never notice it's something else.

This is a short, free guide — one page, no email course, no fluff. Two questions you can run in your head the next time it starts, before you say the thing you'll regret. Five minutes to read, and it's yours to keep.

One guide, straight to your inbox. I write about this kind of thing once a month — leave anytime, and most of what I send, you'll actually want to read.

DJ Bishop, LPC — Therapist. Recovering man. Father.